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Tuesdays with MOJO / Pick up the phone

Marjorie Spitz Rento4 Comments

Call your father.   Or your sibling.   Or a friend you’ve been meaning to catch up with.  Or that person who mentored your child.  Or a former colleague who influenced you.  Or someone you want to thank, or apologize to.   Just pick up the phone!

It’s amazing how in this world of a zillion ways to communicate, we often put off reaching out to the people who most want to hear from us, even if they don’t know it! 

While visiting my Dad and step mom in Florida recently, he and I spent some time hanging at the pool catching up.   It’s a retirement community with beautiful grounds, including a large amoeba-shaped pool, a resistance pool, and Jacuzzi.  As we were lounging around chatting, his phone rang.  It was the mother of a high school student he used to mentor.  Apparently Dad had pocket dialed her a few minutes prior, and instead of ignoring it, she took the opportunity to call him and share some wonderful news.  Her son, who was discovered to have a learning disability during Dad’s mentorship, was thriving!  He had gotten into a private school for those experiencing the same challenges, was President of his class and getting ready to head off to college  - something that seemed unreachable previously. 

Apparently just a few days prior, they were cleaning out his closet and found a Marlins jersey Dad had bought for him while at a baseball game.  It meant so much to the boy that he kept it all this time, and he reflected to his mom about how much he valued the period spent with my Dad. She gushed for about 10 minutes and Dad was visibly touched to hear how well the boy was doing and how much he has accomplished since then.  It was clear that Dad made an impact on the boy’s life, and his mom was grateful!  

I thought about how the people who have affect our lives, likely don’t even know it.  How the small gesture of taking the time to pick up the phone to call someone who influenced you or someone you’re close to could be so meaningful. 

How using that old relic the telephone could make someone feel seismically good!  In addition, not only will it make the person on the receiving end feel good, but the person on the dialing end (you!) will feel good too.

Who would you call and what would you say?

And this goes beyond the circle of people you know (or knew).   The guy at the Verizon store who patiently helped your relative set up a smart phone for the first time.  The pleasant cashier at the market who makes the line go that much faster.   The lecturer who enlightened you in a way you hadn’t thought of.  If you can’t call them, tell them!

This small act could make their day!

Over the holidays I received a lovely holiday card from a childhood friend who now lives in Alaska.  It simply said how much our friendship means to her.   It was the most touching card I received!

I sent her an email thanking her, but it went unanswered. Perhaps it went into her junk folder?  I don’t know, but I’m going to find out.  Today I will pick up the phone and call her.

And you?  Write down a name, and call that person this week.  Let me know how it goes!


Marjorie, Chief MOJO Maker™