Valentines Day is the perfect day to embrace any perceived imperfections about your body, and give them some love.
There's been a lot of talk about body shaming lately. The gorgeously talented and fit Lady Gaga kicked butt at the Superbowl half time show two weekends ago. And what did twitter focus on? Her abs! Really?
I watched the game with someone who will remain nameless who said, “she shouldn’t wear that.” I was stunned. Her body is strong, sexy, can sail from the top of a stadium, strut around in high heels while performing for 15 some-odd minutes, and then catch a pass while jumping off the stage.
Instead of focusing on that, many became obsessed with...her tummy. In response she tweeted, “I’m proud of my body and you should be proud of yours too. No matter who you are or what you do.”
So even if you feel “fatter than an otter and not nearly as cute,” as a good friend emailed me this morning, take a moment to look at your beautiful body, recognize all the amazing things it did for you already today and applaud it!
I read a spot-on article by Bustle suggesting ways we might be body shaming ourselves without even realizing it (the memes are awesome!). Self-insults are so common they have become part of our natural vernacular!
We equate pretty with thin. Have sex with the lights off. Hold ourselves to ridiculous standards. Judge (ourselves and others), and use words like “bad” and “good” to describe eating behavior.
Well stop it right now and shut that self-saboteur down!
We all judge -- it’s no wonder given the signals the media and fashion industries send. The average American woman is a size 16, and “vanity sizing” (made to make us feel good for squeezing into a small size) does us no favors, making it impossible to know what size we really are.
Think about this: the average plus size model is a size 8 – how discouraging is that?
Let’s get real people! We are fierce, strong and beautiful.
Too often we focus on the negative, and put ourselves and others down, instead of shouting the positives from the rooftops and building us all up.
There is no “bad” or “good,” just choices we make in the moment. Choices we control and will change the next time the situation arrives. Stop chastising and start self-complimenting!
Feel free to join the “body positive movement” that believes all bodies are good bodies, regardless of color, size, sexual orientation or shape.
So today, on this Valentines Day, stop the shaming and spread the love instead. For your own body, for the one you judge on the street, and even the one you strive for. Let’s focus on where we are today and give it a loving, huge hug.
Marjorie, Chief MOJO Maker™
Happy Valentine's Day!