In my workshops and coaching sessions, we often talk about the importance of surrounding ourselves with support systems and tools to succeed. Mainly, to surround us with the people and mechanisms that build us up and support our goals, rather than sabotage them.
In addition to annual dietary reboots, an inventory sweep of our environments and relationships is critical to success. Consider: How do they feed your soul? Do they fuel and inspire you toward becoming your best self as you define it?
It's understandable why it might be a challenging question to face. If the answer yes, then woo hoo! If the answer no, then difficult choices need to be made. It’s hard to step away from long-standing friendships that may no longer serve you, and perhaps even harder to redefine them.
But if it no longer feeds your soul, it’s time to make a change. Even a small change will ultimately yield big differences!
For years, I was the single gal with the flexible schedule, always willing to meet up for a drink. Even after I got married, I was the go-to gal when my friends had a night out. It wasn’t long before I was out every night – definitely not good for my soul.
So I started to meet people for tea, a walk, lecture or other activity more aligned with my personal and professional goals. It wasn’t long before my energy elevated, dark circles under my eyes dissipated and the guilt for saying “no” subsided.
This all suggests you ask yourself a very personal yet essential question: “What feeds your soul?”
One practice that feeds mine is one-on-one time with those I love. Yesterday I had the rare opportunity to spend quality time with two dear friends. Busy schedules and commitments at home sometimes get in the way, and we often get together among a larger group, which makes it difficult to connect deeply. Much to my glee, it was a beautiful day and in between walks in the park I saw one for lunch and the other for afternoon tea. Afterwards, I walked away giddy and energized. I asked myself, “Why do I feel so good?” and the answer was crystal clear: they feed my soul. They have my absolute best interests at heart and I theirs. We have built a bond that makes me stronger, better, “me” and that is invaluable.
Having also come off a fabulous family weekend celebrating my mother’s 80th birthday and spending quality time with more “soul nurturing” people, by last night I was standing 10 feet tall!
Those relationships are just one of my go-to tools in my tool chest when I need a boost.
So in the spirit of helping you become your best self who fulfills your highest aspirations, consider what fuels you and do one soul-feeding activity over the next 24 hours.
What will it be? How will it support you? Why? Please share what happens, and carry it forward.
A little soul nourishment will do us all good!
Marjorie, Chief MOJO Maker™