I’ve been in Killington VT since Thursday without my hubby. That’s relevant because he is a ski addict and I am…NOT. We rent a beautiful house for the season with friends and have the option to come every weekend. Bob would go every day if he could! Me, I go because of him.
So you can imagine my surprise decision to come up solo while he is on a “business trip” to Colorado.
Don’t get me wrong I love the house, the people, and the big kitchen where we can cook scrumptious meals without bumping into each other. I love being able to spread out when I work, and look out the windows at the mountains and nature. But it’s a long drive; my usual crowd’s off-weekend, and skiing not super high on my list of favorite things to do.
Storm Stella, having dropped 32 inches of fresh snow promised rad ski conditions.
So I drove up -- by myself. And skied -- by myself. And went to bed early -- by myself.
Don’t get me wrong; the people here are lovely and inclusive! We dined and clinked glasses together, and had wonderful conversation.
But Stella’s blanket of snow didn’t disappoint and the time solo on the mountain with the bluebird sky and spring temperatures allowed for a lot of time for space, contemplation and plain ole silence. It was refreshing.
Many people feel anxious when faced with quiet, and thus fill every silence with noise or a task. To them silence equals wasted time.
However, “recent studies are showing that taking time for silence restores the nervous system, helps sustain energy, and conditions our minds to be more adaptive and responsive to the complex environments in which so many of us now live, work, and lead,” cites an article ironically titled "The Busier Your Are, the More You Need Quiet Time”. Quiet time “facilitates clear and creative thinking, quiets inner chatter as well as outer”.
These days with buzzing phones, beeping calendars, non-stop news, and an electric political environment, it’s harder than ever to find quiet space. Frankly, I don’t anticipate that changing so it’s up to us to seek it out and I highly recommend you do!
Consider, do these things ever happen to you:
- When waiting a bit before firing off an email response, the problem magically gets resolved.
- When giving someone a chance to think through an issue, he/she comes up with sound and creative resolutions.
- When acknowledging and taking pleasure in a meal, digestion is smooth and you feel energized.
- I could go on citing many examples, but instead encourage you to add one of our own: Fill in personal example here.
The point is, find your silence whether it by taking-a-beat, going for a walk, meditating, or just stepping away from a crowd and heading to the bathroom.
Note what happens to your clarity of mind, the breath in your body and stress level. Heighten your self-awareness by paying attention to the details around you, the scents, flavors and noises.
I’m not suggesting you take a vow of silence or silent vacation, just that you be present and aware.
As I write this blog entry, the house is calm and I’m on my own. You think I would be itching to leave, but I am not. I never get through all the reading, self-reflecting and self-care I intend when given the gift of alone, quiet time. But life’s a journey and I gain knowledge very step of the way.
I can thank quiet time for that!
What will you do with your next opportunity for quiet time and if the opportunity lacking, how can you create one?
Please note what happens, take a beat and enjoy!
Marjorie, Chief MOJO Maker™