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Tuesdays with MOJO/Is it time for plan B?

Marjorie Spitz Rento3 Comments

I am really moved this week by an event I attended, and two books I am reading. Yes, the woman who chides herself for starting, yet rarely completing multiple books is actually reading (and will finish!) two simultaneously, both by Sheryl Sandberg.

Not everyone is lucky enough to decide whether or not it time for “plan B.” Some are forced to change courses due to a tragedy, unplanned struggle or unfulfilled goal.

Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook and author of Lean In, and most recently Option B, is one of the unlucky ones. You may have heard her story: amazing woman, having an amazing impact, with an amazing family. While on vacation in Mexico with her husband Dave to celebrate a friend’s birthday, her husband (also an amazing person) suddenly died from heart arrhythmia. He was 47 years old.

Imagine the shock of going away for a celebration and coming home to tell your children they will never see their dad again. Heart wrenching!

But as Ms. Sandberg said, “You can give into the void . . . Or you can try to find meaning…I want to choose life and meaning.”

While being consoled by a friend when faced with a father-child activity her late husband wasn’t there to do, she cried to her friend, “But I want Dave. I want option A.” Her friend put his arm around her and said, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of option B.”

People are incredibly resilient.  When faced with a challenge, whether it be a sudden tragedy, bouncing back from an illness, confronting emotions from abuse, or dealing with being laid off, the stories of recovery inspiring.

As a result of her experience, Ms. Sandberg and her co-author created OptionB.org, an organization dedicated to providing tools and support for people needing to build their resilience in the face of adversity. Brilliant! Check it out and go build your resiliency muscles.

Have you ever been forced to make adjustments or reinvent yourself? How has it impacted your life? For some, adversity results in positive change. Like stories of people “stuck” in a career, and upon being let go from a job entered into a much more fulfilling and fruitful opportunity.

 Regardless of whether you pushed out of your comfort zone, go do something you’ve been meaning to do. Reach for a stretch goal. Quiet that voice in your head putting the kibosh on your confidence. To quote Allen Rucker (who has an amazing Option B story): “You have a lot more grit than you think you do.”

Go put it to use!

Resiliently yours,

Marjorie, Chief MOJO Maker™