Three weeks into the new year how are you doing on maintaining the health and self-care routine you committed to?
If the scale isn’t budging and your commitment to fitness already waning, it’s time give yourself a pat on the back. You heard me right – no judgements or scolding here!
Habit change takes time, adjustment and forgiveness. You are better than the results may indicate. Don’t give up! In fact, give yourself a golf clap.
I can confidently say from my experience as a health coach that negativity and self-cruelty do NOT return success. Whereas, positivity and speaking to oneself in an affirming way often yields miracles.
For example, take the woman who is a life-long beautiful dancer who hated her thighs. They were “too muscular” and “pants never fit right.” Ironically, those strong beautiful thick thighs that actually allowed her to dance were getting her down. A few weeks of affirmation statements in front of the mirror transformed her vision of her own body. She was truly glowing when she stated to me, “You know, I really struggled with it at first, but now I can honestly say I love my thighs.”
In another case, a senior level executive woman realized that for the first time in her life, she needed to ask others for help in order to reach the next stage in her career. Always the one to help others, she had no idea where to start, yet faced with ageism and a lack of second interviews, knew things had to change. After a few pep talks about networking and ways to ask for introductions, she recently reported she accepted a job in a new field she never considered, and is thrilled. She got it through using our techniques and asking for an introduction. Simple, but genius!
And lastly, the client who thought holiday time meant a sure walk to weight gain. Instead we developed strategies to keeping her on track, mitigate peer pressure and integrate a gentle exercise routine. Voila, she came through that time of year feeling stronger, less stressed and healthier than ever.
I share these examples to demonstrate that your struggles are real and not to be discounted.
I struggle too. Since January 2 I’ve been experimenting with a no gluten, dairy, soy and limited alcohol diet. Not easy while my husband sips a glass of delicious red wine or fresh bread right in front of me!
I expected the results to be clear, fast and life altering. So far they aren’t, but I refuse to let discouragement take over!
Instead I count the little wins, like the reduced bloating, more supple skin and disappearance of night sweats. Small wins add up to big victories.
If you are disappointed by results, resist the urge to give up. As NBA superstar Michael Jordan said, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions, I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot... and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that's precisely why I succeed."
So, chin up, today is a new day, you can do it, and (insert your own personal annoying phrase here). In the words of Art Williams, “I'm not telling you it's going to be easy - I'm telling you it's going to be worth it.”
Change is hard, but goals worth achieving are rarely simple.
Importantly, enlist MOJO Maker #12, and surround yourself with a supportive circle. People who build you up, celebrate your successes and encourage you, as opposed to those who take joy in you failing.
Transformation takes time, dedication, and yes self-love. So, take a moment right now and give yourself a hug and a smile. Oh, and a golf clap.
Marjorie, Chief MOJO Maker™