I am sometimes faced with a true test of practicing what I profess. And sometimes I veer off course, even though I know with every fiber of my being that I’m better served otherwise. But I’m human, just like everyone else.
Here’s what happened…
Our stove keeps making a clicking noise. Every-10-freakin-minutes. I finally figured out a way to make it stop, which entails taking the burners off and putting them back on when I want to use it. The other night, it started clicking regardless. Ghost?
9:00pm Sunday: with a big project launch impacting almost 500 people all over the world just 5 hours away, I received notification from the tech vendor that there is an issue that involves shuffling around some people. A problem that should have been caught by the technology itself, but if not, then at least flagged last Wednesday. This led to hours of work, anxiety and a sleepless night.
6:30am Monday morning: Not being able to sleep, I got online and tried to resolve the issue myself to no avail.
8:30am Monday: I decided to treat myself to a fresh chai tea latte and breakfast at my favorite local spot. I got settled, took out my laptop and phone to work, and then realized I left my wireless hot spot, vitamins and headset at home. Sigh. My morning plan was disrupted, and I was thrown.
10:00am Monday: As I started to write this, there was no resolution to the work issue, my tongue was burned by my extra hot chai tea (mea culpa as I ordered it extra hot. I really dislike lukewarm tea), and I felt alone.
Etc.: Other things ensued throughout the day, like the client’s IT department deciding to shut down the site until the tech team implemented some new security measures (even though the same mechanisms were deemed perfectly fine 6 months ago), which took down the site for hours, but I’ll stop there.
Any of us can relate to a series of events going wrong. The important thing is how we react to that series of events.
I went to some of my go-to practices: deep breathing, applying essential oils, going for a walk, and turning on mindless tv. But I was still frustrated. And then I reached for the ice cream, which seemingly did the trick in the short term, but of course then made it difficult to sleep given the sugar rush that followed.
My point is, no one is perfect, and although the frustration-relief techniques I turned to before I reached for the ice cream didn’t fully alleviate my anxiety, it helped. It made it better, so I ate some ice cream, not the whole pint. And I had a few laughs with a colleague as we navigated the unexpected challenges together. In addition, I was awed by how a senior level client showed great compassion and support to her staff, when many people in that position would have sought a scapegoat.
And now today I sit here, a new day. The sun is shining, the tech security issue resolved, and the rest slowly fading away. The lessons are learned, and new protocols will be created to avoid the same issues in the future.
Other challenges will present themselves, and perhaps I will go off again. But knowing I have go-to practices to minimize the damage are critical tools to keep me on track.
Ask yourself: What plan and/or practices do you put in place to keep your health plan on track when faced with frustration or stress? How can you minimize the possibility of letting unexpected challenges sabotage you? Can you avoid using them as an excuse to go off, instead of slightly off?
The next time you’re about to “go off,” notice what parts of your body are tight, and what your natural tendencies are. Can you slightly alter them to only go slightly off?
It’s all about baby steps. I know we will make progress in time.
Marjorie, Chief MOJO Maker™