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Tuesdays with MOJO/Thank you

Marjorie Spitz RentoComment
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With the pending onslaught of holiday stress (black Friday has ridiculously now become black week), abundance of food, football, and family, it’s easy to get distracted from what Thanksgiving is really about .

Reminder: it’s about gratitude.

Expressing gratitude has been shown to improve life. Even just ending the day by recognizing three things you’re grateful for will have an impact. It’s that simple.

I happen to be grateful for the belly laugh the “Turkey Challenge” gave me this morning. Have you heard about this? Kids are texting their parents asking how to cook a 25-lb turkey in the microwave and the answers are hysterical. Go here and also google it. LOLOLOLOLOLOL. OK, I’ll stop.

On a serious note, while most of us are safe in our homes, there are many less fortunate, like the people caught in the California fires. It reminds us all to be grateful for the little things, like the clothes on our backs, a warm bed, running water and access to clean air.

If you want to spread the love, you can help the victims of the fires by supporting one of these organization.

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And in closing, I just want to say how grateful I am for YOU! Your emails, comments and stories fuel me, and I am truly filled with appreciation.

I want to share this Tiny Buddha list of 50 ways to show gratitude for people in your life (and yourself). My favorite examples are below, and you can read the whole list here. Try selecting just one and see how good it makes you feel.


Show Gratitude to People Who Love You

1. Share a specific example of something they did for you and how it made a difference in your life.

2. Do something little but thoughtful for them—like clean up after Thanksgiving dinner!

8. Offer to do something you know they don’t enjoy doing, like organizing their closet or mowing their lawn.

9. Compliment them on a talent, skill, or strength that you admire.

10. Look them straight in the eyes and say, “You make the world a better place.”

Show Gratitude to People Who Challenge You

11. Fully listen to what they have to say, instead of forming your rebuttal in your head and waiting to speak.

12. Thank them for introducing you to a new way to look at things, even if you still don’t agree.

13. Pinpoint something you admire about their commitment to their beliefs—even if you don’t hold them, as well.

14. Resist the urge to tell them they’re wrong.

20. Let them know how you appreciate when they challenge you in a loving, non-confrontational way—and if they don’t do that, be calm and kind when you ask them to do that going forward.

Show Gratitude to People Who Serve You

23. Smile when you order or enlist their assistance. Smiles are contagious, so give one away!

24. If they serve you regularly, acknowledge something they always do well—like work efficiently or stay calm under pressure.

26. Let their superior know they do an outstanding job.

28. Offer to get a coffee for them, if it’s someone working in or outside your home.

30. Praise them in a review on Yelp and/or recommend them to people you know.

Show Gratitude to People Who Work with You

31. Write a hand-written thank you note, acknowledging things you value about them and their work.

33. Bring back lunch for them if you know they’re working hard and likely haven’t had a chance to grab something.

36. Be the calm, light voice in a stressful situation.

38. Let their boss know how they’re doing a great job and contributing to the company.

39. Listen fully if they’re having a difficult day, and recognize if they need space to figure things out on their own, not advice or help.

Show Gratitude for Yourself

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41. Make a list of ways you’ve impressed yourself lately.

43. If someone compliments you, thank them and let them know you’re proud of that skill, talent, or accomplishment.

44. Compliment yourself—say it while looking in the mirror, write it in a journal, or jot it on a sticky note and put it on your refrigerator.

45. Give yourself time to enjoy a passion you’re sometimes too busy to fit in.

46. Take an inventory of all the good things you’ve done for other people and the world.

47. Write yourself a love letter. Seriously, start with “Dear Lori” (but insert your own name) and describe all the things you admire about yourself.

Wishing you and yours a wonderful and gratitude-filled Thanksgiving.

With Gratitude,

Marjorie, Chief MOJO Maker™

Save the Date: The next Montauk Retreat will be May 31-June 2. We will focus on building confidence and self-compassion. It’s the perfect holiday gift for yourself! Email me for details.