On a recent sunny early evening I was walking down Broadway in my neighborhood when I heard a catchy tune coming from the guy walking slightly in front of me. He was pale, a little chubby and wearing light blue denim shorts with ankle high pink socks and Beats headphones.
In perfect pitch and without abandon he sang:
“…all the sweet green icing flowing down
Someone left the cake out in the rain
I don’t think that I can take it
‘cause it took so long to bake it
And I’ll never have that recipe again…”
I recognized that tune! Unbeknownst to him, I sang and danced along behind him. That Donna Summer rendition of MacArthur Park brought me way back and this stranger’s energetic rendition took me out of my errand-running mind into the present, beautiful summer evening. And it was contagious. I wasn’t the only one on the street pulled into his aura!
That guy will never know how big a smile he put on my face and the effect he had on me. How it drew a few of us to smile at each other and converse. We all have the ability to impact those around us, whether a close buddy or stranger. Whether a friend or foe.
How do you impact those around you?
You may not think you have the power to influence others, but I’m here to tell you that you do. Will you use your power for positivity, team building and support or to spread negativity and bring others (or yourself) down?
Everyone has a bad day now and again, but if every day is a bad day, you may need an attitude adjustment.
Regardless of your ‘tude, consider adopting these strategies to ignite a long-standing halo effect that leads to growth, prosperity and peak performance:
“Yes and” – no matter what your colleague or loved one says, instead of negating or disregarding it, start your reply with “yes and” and see what responses, insights and ideas form as a result. This is an especially good phrase to replace for “but” or “no.”
Immediate feedback – As I’ve written about before, direct, constructive immediate feedback is a meaningful way to empower those around you to be better. It creates an opportunity to provide timely, relevant input while behavior is top of mind.
Build – Ever stop listening to someone because you think you know what they are going to say? Then the person says something unexpected, but you can’t intelligently reply because you weren’t fully listening? Awkward! One exercise to get us out of this habit is to build or create a continuous story. Have one person in the group say any old sentence, and then the next person adds a sentence of his/her own, and so on and so on. See what story is built – it’s likely something you never imagined. Now do that with a work or personal goal in mind and see where it leads you.
Or just sing or dance on the street (or in an airport like this gal) and see who joins along.
Of course, you can also come to our reset, revive and re-energize Montauk Retreat and bring that good MOJO and tools and tricks to fulfill the intentions you set back with you.
How will you make an impact on someone today? Please share!
Singfully and dancefully yours,
Marjorie, Chief MOJO Maker™
Montauk Retreat, 9/14-16. Register by August 1 in order to get early bird pricing.