Who is your person or people? Whether single, married, have 1 friend or 50, big family or small, do you have a go-to posse?
I just read an article that states the “number 1 reason you can’t stay healthy,” and the finding doesn’t surprise me one bit.
The article cites: “One of the things holding Americans back is a lack of support: Fifty-seven percent report feeling alone as they work toward their wellness goals.”
That truly breaks my heart.
Especially given the gazillions of on and offline support groups and resources, books, videos, diet, mindfulness and fitness options available both for fee and free.
Even more heartbreaking is that, “According to a new survey of 2,000 Americans, the person most likely to derail your efforts to be healthy is yourself.”
You may be blocking the way of your best you. But you can change that.
I’m giving a talk in a few weeks about this very topic in the context of “how to get out of your own way on the path to success” for the Fly Female Founders organization.
Even the most kick-ass women with bold careers and satisfying social lives may lack confidence or feel unable to implement the very advice they offer to others. We will unpack that together and quiet the voice of self-criticism that often hinders ones’ ability to achieve the success they know their capable of.
A big part of that is having a supportive circle you can share with and rely on.
“83% of those who set goals with another person found themselves more successful in their efforts.” And according to Mindlab International, The Anxiety & Depression Society of America, “Having someone to talk to can add up to 10 years to your lifespan.”
A recent e-newsletter from Bareburger about mental health reinforces one of my favorite suggestions: make a list of people you trust and who you can always call or text when you need an ear. Call this “the judgement-free zone of your social circle.” Just having the list will help you feel safe and surrounded, and when you really feel the need to connect with someone, you won’t have to go through your contacts in a panic.
If you follow me on social media, you know I just had a birthday and the festivities lasted about a week. I celebrated with my husband the week prior since he had to be away on business on the actual day. And then I had multiple celebrations over the weekend, including a gals trip to Montauk. We come from various backgrounds and each have different challenges, and together we laughed, we cried and mostly we lifted each other up when we needed it.
Who can you lift up right now? And if you need a lift, who can you call to give you a boost? If you’re in need of guided support, join us for our next Montauk Retreat where we’ll focus on this very topic with the sand and ocean at our feet. And feel free to attend the aforementioned breakfast.
Whatever your method, your community and the circle you create is meaningful. Reach out and feel the strength it gives you and embrace it.
Marjorie, Chief MOJO Maker™
Montauk Retreat, May 31-June 2. We’ve opened up dorm-style room options for those who want to share.
How to Get Out of Your Own Way on the Path to Success Workshop for the Fly Female Founders on Thurs. May 16, 8:30-10 a.m. @ The Assemblage NoMad